Sex, Marriage, & Fairytales

Disney movies and chick flicks, they've put us in a weird position

They distorted our reality, because we forget they're actually fiction

Because in marriage, we either get better or bitter, either joy or remorses

What we're doing isn't working, just like at the rate of divorces

So how's your marriage, i mean come on, let's be honest

Marriage seems more like a prison than the paradise they were promised

We thought marriage was supposed to fulfill us and make us happy, not lonely

But the truth is god's first priority is making you holy

You say, "no one told me, it feels so odd

That dating feels like a vacation, while marriage feels like a job"

Yet the secret of joy if we just pull back to façade

Is realizing most problems arise when we elevate our spouse to god

Without knowing it, we fulfilled roman's 1:25

By our actions, extremes of truth about god for a lie

We've exchanged god for lesser created things

It's like a husband trading his wife for a 2d image on a screen

Hoping it'll set us free, justifying the fumes we're choking

Because if your marriage rests on anything but jesus, it's resting on something broken

Yet guys continually sacrifice their marriage on the altar of sex and lust

I mean if our dollars were honest, they'd stay in pleasure we trust

So men, grow up, put down the controller

How about you lead her with grace instead of trying to control her

Now i've never been married, but i'm a product of one that was nonexistent

So don't tell me i don't understand the pain, don't tell me i don't get it

So for the singles, become friends first before you ever become lovers

Pursue jesus as your foundation before you get under the covers

Because, believe me, a strong friendship before marriage will make a good marriage after

Marriage isn't just sex, it's conversation and laughter

I mean some spouses barely even like each other, and the marriage seems like a dead end

You might share a checkbook and a house, but are you actually friends?

I mean, if marriage isn't a commitment, then what's the point of the vows we say?

"'til death do us part" really means "until the feelings go away"

Like, i'll stay with him, but only until it gets tough and my love shifts

But i say imagine if a parent took that perspective with their kids

Like can't you see it? the minute the kid spills something on the floor

The mom's saying, "forget it, i don't even love you anymore"

No, it's just like marriage, to last you need the strength from above

Because it's not love that sustains the promise, it's the promise that sustains the love

I mean think about it, out of anyone, who's actually had the right to leave?

God had every reason in the world that he still came for you and me

And on the cross he paid it all, took our shame, and set us free

When he could've called the legions of angels, he chose to stay on that tree

From the cross, he looks you in the eye and says i'm taking this from my bride

When you trust in me, you no longer have to hide

Because if ?? is finished, you've been made new

You're spotless, you're blameless, there's no sin in you

Because his death was a proposal, he wanted you no matter the cost

Where some guys propose on the knee, jesus proposed on a cross

So read ephesians 5, whether husband or wife

Wife honor your husband, husbands give up your life

Just like jesus gave himself up for his bride: the church

So men, lead by serving by putting her first

So die to self, put your flesh on a life sentence

Because you don't fall out of love as much as you fall out of repentance